1. Honor your father and your mother…
—- somewhat biblical, but my child let me redefine it for you… you honor us by living to the fullest of your life, maximizing your abilities and using them for your own good. Trust your judgment always, and let it always be in the manner that you will not hurt anybody else. If you are to burn because of your iniquities, put out your own fire. Never live in a manner that others are dictating, but live in such that you are exalting the goodness of your being. And never rely on others to put the fire out for you. By being you, you honor us. By living true, you honor us. By being the greatest you can be, you honor us.
2. Don’t make the same mistakes I did.
—- We haven’t explored it all. But please don’t repeat what we’ve done wrong. There are plenty more, create your own and learn from your experiences as well. Learn from ours but don’t let it cripple you into rigidly living by the book. Create paths, tread on new worlds.. travel far and beyond, by then you’ll know, we cannot teach you everything. Let the world be your greatest school. Trust in the foundation we have instilled in you, the decisions are yours to make and its consequences are yours to take. Trust in your heart, and let your soul soar.
3. Love yourself selfishly and whole-heartedly.
—- There may come a time that our love extended to you may not be enough. Always remember, no one will ever love you more than you can love yourself. The importance you bestowed on your being will always be that piece that will glue you together forever. Once in a while, circumstances might shatter you. Have that special place in your heart that will remind you how you have stayed whole all these years. That will help you put the pieces back together. At times, you may feel alone, but remember, it is better to be alone once in every while in order to understand yourself. Friends will always be there, but it is better when you understand yourself. Loving yourself selfishly doesn’t necessarily mean creating a prison to shut the world out, it only means having enough love inside of you when the world has turned its back on you.
4. Learn from the past and prepare for the future, but NEVER forget to live in each TODAY.
—- Lessons from the past are carried out in order to understand the way of today. Those are to equip you to face every today with wisdom more than just the knowledge of how to get through it. Preparation for the future is the fact that what you do in every today affects it. So never lose sight of what is here and now, but do not indulge too much on how it will affect tomorrow to keep you from having fun. One thing to note, just always keep in mind that you are to carry it out thoroughly even on your own.
5. Always choose the lesser evil.
—- When you encounter a scenario in which you feel there is no way out to effect a hurtful consequence unto yourself and to others, always choose the better longer-term outcome. Don’t do shortcuts. An easy way out is not always good. Remember that shortcuts leads to filthy results, and it will haunt your every tomorrow. Might as well deal with it upfront, with integrity and honesty. Do not add insult to injury. Inevitably, it will all fall into place.
6. Celebrate being a part of a family.
—- Whenever you feel alone, contemplate on what you feel and call home. You are a part of a family, you are part of a sacred congregation of people who live in your heart that will always make you feel at home. Celebrate each friendship, each relationship, and never allow it to wither. There are always two ends to a rope, when you feel like it is loosing its intensity, give it a little tug once it a while. It always feel great to be connected to other people. Whether with blood relation or none, you will always belong.
7. Don’t just do your best, get it done.
—- In everything that you choose to involve yourself into, never make that excuse of “i did my best but…” Your best will only count if you get it done. When you get things done, you will have a sense of accomplishment. But in everything you do, make sure you do it 100%, never half-heartedly and GET IT DONE. Never leave things hanging, and we don’t mean that figuratively. Apply it in all occasions, in all relations, and in all your work. You’ll never be sorry by doing so.
8. Speak your mind, rationally and objectively, and Listen more.
—- When you have to say something, be sensitive enough to the occasion. If it is needed, do it in a manner that will lead to the best results. Criticisms are only helpful if done objectively. If done with malice, you are only making things worst. Remember, pointing out the wrong will not give the solution. Rather, objectively create solutions while eradicating the unnecessary. Telling will only be productive if there is a point of resolution. Making others feel incompetent doesn’t make you competent. Above all, remember you learn more when you listen more.
9. Be gentle yet always be firm.
—- It is a cliche to note that life is never fair. And each person is fighting a different battle. So do not assume that the world revolves around you, and people should be there with your every beck and call. When dealing with others, always be gentle but do it in a way which you do not forget your own worth. When you have to say no, be firm. When you are to agree, be sincere. Walk the way you talk, and talk the way you walk. Live according to what you believe, and never ever forget that.
10. Don’t hurry, no one gets out of this life alive.
—- My dear child, we all go through phases in life. We were toddlers, teenagers, and young adults once… Please do not hurry life to get to a certain stage. Savor the moment of your youth. You are at a stage in which you have to learn how it is to be young in order to realize what to do with the young when you get old. Do not rush into getting older just to cut the curfews and telling of parents. Freedom has its price. You may not know it yet, but there will come a time that you are free to do everything that you want to yet responsibilities will be abundant too. Your restrictions are for your own good. You have restrictions as you are free of the adult responsibilities. Once the turn of the table reaches you, we are all in the hope that you will be responsible individuals too. Do not wish for the time to turn its hands faster, none of us will get out of this alive. So live in your today, and be happy. :)
As this may seem too early to have been written as I have no child of my own yet, let this be known to each kid who in every sense is already my child. I love you now, and always will. Be your own greatest hero, and defeat your alter ego as you are your own greatest enemy. No one is in the capacity to stand in your way, unless you choose them to be your hindrance. Always take that leap of faith. God will be with you when we, your parents, are no longer around. Listen to the voice of reason in your heart. May God bless you and always be a blessing to everyone else.
I wrote this now before I get senile. One of these days, I’ll be like grandma… please be patient with me too. Before I forget what to say, before I start to lose my rationality… pay attention to what is here. These are my notations to guide you with your free will. :)